Friday, 20 November 2009
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Twenty Five, Bitches
1. I finally caved and decided to do this silly factoid game. If I tagged you, it's because you tagged me. That's right - all ten of you. Yes, that's a total cop out fact. You only get twenty four.
2. I was born in California, lived there until I was two in 1989. After the big quake, my mother and I moved into her mother's house in Binghamton, NY while my father stayed behind to sell the house. The only thing I remember about my grandmother's house is the carpet. A year or so after that, they bought the house in New Jersey, and that's where I lived until I went to college and then moved out. I lived in the city of Rochester for about a year and a half, then I moved to the business district where I've lived for the past year and a half. On December 28th, I'll be moving back to my parent's house.
3. I only use these pens: the Pilot VBall Grip with an Extra Fine tip.
4. I have always got a cup of coffee or tea sitting next to my computer when I'm doing anything.
5. I hate the feel of dirt on my feet. It's a fairly new development however, because I used to do everything barefoot. Now I can barely wear sandals without being immensely grossed out. Beaches make me cranky because of the sand. It's gritty and disgusting and it feels like it sticks to the bottom of my feet for weeks afterwards.
6. I saw a book today. It was called Twilight and Philosophy. It made me want to go on a shooting rampage through the Barnes & Noble, until I thought of all the poor innocent books that would have been torn up. Here's an excerpt from the fucking genius that is that book. headfuckingdesk.
7. I have pretty decent knowledge of the Tarot, and am halfway decent at giving reading. I have five different decks I can choose from when I decide to work with them.
8. I believe in Faeries and Dragons. Now, that's not really as strange as it sounds. A lot of people believe in Guardian Angels, they get pish-poshed far less often than I do.
9. I have a Catwoman Lego key chain. One of her arms is broken though - her entire right hand is missing.
10. I have a big aloe plant, which I just realized I forgot to water this week. Good thing they're desert plants.
11. My middle name is Elizabeth, after my father's sister who died in a motorcycle accident before I was born. My parents planned on making it my first name but apparently the name was too big for such a "small baby." I wish I had met my aunt; a motorcyclist in the Air Force? She must have been pretty awesome.
12. I'm not sure anymore if I want to go to college for Education. I'm thinking about switching to Occupational Therapy with a concentration in Autistic Children.
13. I am obsessed with bats. I love them. So much. Aren't they adorable?!
14. I used to be able to quote the entirety of the Fellowship of the Ring, the film (duh), but now I can only quote the first big speech. Don't ever watch that movie with me. I hear it's not a fun experience.
15. I'm left handed.
16. I have an addictive personality as I'm sure you can tell by reading my blog. Luckily I haven't been terribly addictive with substances or self harm stuff, but I focus all of my energies elsewhere.
17. I am the sane one in my family. My mother's a paranoid, depressed, controlling, manipulative, crazy. My father's too afraid to have his own opinion. My one sister is a really bad pothead and has started dabbling in harder stuff. My other sister is a recovering anorexic who cuts a lot. I'm just depressed, failed out of one college, and don't know what I want from life. Yeah, I'm the sane one. Weird.
18. I talk too much.
19. I've discovered a new found appreciation for heels. For 22 years I only put on heels for job interviews. In the past month I've discovered that they're a really subtle touch to make me feel sexier. Whether it makes anyone else think I'm prettier, I don't much care. However, they make me feel prettier to me. Yes, Lens barely wears makeup lives in jeans and tee shirts and wears heels. It's strange for me too.
20. I'm really enjoying my ASL class. I've never before wanted so badly to be fluent in a language.
21. I hate packing. I will wait until the 27th of December to do any serious packing to move back in with my parents. Lucky for me, most of my shit is clothing and books plus a few boxes of candles and figurines. Easy to pack at least.
22. I'm a coffee addict.
23. I'm really bad at video games, but I enjoy playing them in groups. I'm really bad. I mean, really fucking bad.
24. Pirate Booty with Aged Cheddar is my favorite snack.
25. My cats are meowing to be fed. Their dinner time was almost an hour ago. Bye now.
Thursday, 19 November 2009
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Victim, turned Bully
"Do you want to dance?"
"Sure." We had taken 'classes' in our gym classes to prelude the first school dance of our middle school career. I was amazed that this kid had asked. We'd never really gotten along, but we'd never not gotten along either.
"Just kidding!"
Middle school was one of the most miserable experiences of my entire life. Though it was only three years, it felt like closer to eight. I wasn't exactly the expressive, picture-happy, confident girl that my blog currently portrays me as. I was more of the awkward, geeky, but-wants-to-be-cool girl, with crooked teeth, that only weighed 70lbs and was six inches shorter than the rest of my class.

[[okay, I haven't changed that much]]Unlike a lot of the stories I've been reading on Xanga, I did have friends - the some of the best fucking friends I've ever had in fact (that went up in smoke during high school, but that's another story). The problem was that they were just as awkward and outcasted as I was. I remember being voted leader of my straggly group in the seventh grade. Basically, I was queen of the losers.
[[ah, the good times at the lunch table]]
"How far have you gotten?"
"What do you mean?" We were supposed to be participating in a 'get to know you' activity in our language class.
He burst into laughter. "Hey, dude. Listen to this!" He turned back towards me, "How far have you gotten?"
I turned bright red as I realized what he was saying to me.
I've blocked out a majority of the incidents of bullying. It's not always good for me to pull those things out of my brain. I don't want to remember the more intense incidents. The momentary ones are bad enough. They still make me feel ashamed of being me.
My height, my weight, my inexperience (sexually, and otherwise), my clothes, my face, my smile - none of it was exempt from comment from my peers. I was an assumed anorexic, but whenever anyone saw me eat I was considered a fat slob. I didn't have a boyfriend until I turned 18, that was cause for ridicule. I wore sweat pants and despised jeans, so I was homeless and my mother dressed me every morning.
"You three are Satan and his minions!"
I was so proud of that exclamation, of that reputation. It was how I protected myself. It was how I kept the insults from penetrating my shell. Most of the bullies that bothered me were male. I learned very quickly that I could hurt them physically far more than they could hurt me mentally. I took to wearing combat boots; my mother thought I was just going 'goth.' A good sharp kick would leave them writhing on the floor in the middle of the library and give me the satisfaction of being able to keep my head held high while I stalked away.
It wasn't until years later that I realized that by being bullied, my coping mechanism was to become one myself. By the time I reached high school no one bothered me any longer. The boys were too afraid of being kicked and the girls, well, they never really bothered me to begin with and with dwindling interest from the men, the girls lost interest too.
For a long time I thought I had conquered my bullies. I think I actually became worse than they were.I think I missed bully awareness week,
but I figured I'd share my story.
Wednesday, 18 November 2009
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The Care and Feeding Of ...
His face lit up with an innocent joy as he placed the Webkinz Fox and Bakugan cards on the counter. He meticulously counted out his quarters and nickels with a silly grin on his face. His ancient Pokemon shirt was threadbare and his jeans were torn from tumbles taken on his bicycle. He wore a sticker that read, 'Hello, my name is Joe.'
As the machine beeped, reading the barcode on the fox, his grin widened and he reached for the stuffed animal. "I'll take that now, please." Tucking the creature into his armpit, he continued to count out his quarters. The machine beeped again, adding the cards to his purchase. His math was impeccable. Before the computer even gave him the total, he knew what it was - tax and all.
"Have a nice day, Joe." His face, dirty from a long day of work at some minimum wage job seemed to split with the effort of smiling even wider than he already was smiling. He left, clutching the Webkinz in a suffocating embrace.
The image of Joe stayed with me all day. He was 45, maybe 50 years old, around my uncle's age, I imagined. His contagious, easy smile and happy innocence reminded me of my uncle in ways that I didn't know existed. My uncle, the man who was put in a home when he was far too young for disabilities that were not debilitating. Joe was a functioning part of society. The name tag and the money told me that he was able to hold down a job. He seemed so happy. Don't get me wrong, my uncle's in a wonderful place, a farm in matter of fact, and he does a lot of the jobs around the farm and he loves it there. But, he was sent away when he was very young. He was never given a chance to be a part of the "regular" society. I can't help but wonder how he would have been different had he been allowed to grow into the modern world like Joe has.
There is something in both mens' stories - my uncle's and Joe's - that makes me profoundly sad; and there's something in both mens' stories that makes me smile. While Joe did seem to be a part of the modern world, I'm not sure if he had family taking care of him and from the state of his dress and his dirt crusted self, I would warrant he didn't. My uncle was never given the chance to be a part of the "real" world, but he lives with a beautiful family of Amish who treat him and their other charges as their own.
Tuesday, 17 November 2009
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Get a Life
By Nadine Gordimer
see relatedSpiraling
Closing. Closed eyes, fingers pressing. There.
There's just so much going on in my head. So many stories
swim through my head like a dense school
of fish that trip over each other as they run towards the ocean.
There. There's just so much that I want to say if only the words would come.
It's loud in here, inside my skull. Flaming overly
bright reds and yellows. They're there.
Swirling, twirling, spinning, flying. Dripping. Falling.
I am spinning, falling. Flashing greens and pinks.
Somewhere. Just under the surface, if only I could reach them.
Tears bring only toothy grins. False cheer and even more false fears.
Sunday, 15 November 2009
Friday, 13 November 2009
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fāl'yər
Failure
fāl'yər
- an act or instance of proving unsuccessful; lack of success
- deterioration or decay, esp. of vigor, strength, etc
- a person or thing that proves unsuccessful
sək-sěs'fəl- Having a favorable outcome
- Having obtained something desired or intended
- having attained wealth, position, honors, or the like
är'bĭ-trěr'ē- Based on or subject to individual judgment or preference
- subject to individual will or judgment without restriction
- contingent solely upon one's discretion
I stopped thinking in terms of failure and successes a long time ago. Nothing can truly be failure, nothing can truly be a success because that would require a real ending. Our minds makes certain moments appear to be conclusions. From these moments, we decide whether we have failed or succeeded. That decision can only be made by us.
One of my favorite sets of comments on my featured post about my break up, was the people that insisted on telling me that, regardless of what I thought - my relationship was a failure. Those comments made me laugh, quite a bit. Failure and success is completely arbitrary. It is something that we label ourselves, no one else can tell you if you've failed or not.
Of course, this is not saying that other people cannot make you feel like a failure. Personally, my mother is one of the only people in the world that can make me ashamed of my choices, that can make me feel like a real failure. What I have to remember, is that her opinion of whether or not I am a failure has no bearing on whether I think I'm a failure or not.
People like to chop their lives up into segments, into pieces that they can better understand. Successes mean that they move on to a "new" piece. Failures mean we have to repeat the "old" piece or that we take a step backwards into an even older piece of our lives. What we don't always realized is that even in repeating what we've dubbed "old" pieces of our lives, we are changing, we are moving on.
I said at the beginning of this post that I stopped thinking in successes and failures. Well, I suppose that's not entirely true. I think I'd be much more at peace if I were able to stop thinking in such miserable absolutes. I think I'd be more at peace if I could stop judging myself and realize that the world just ... goes on.
Thursday, 12 November 2009
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World Without End - Sean Russell
Through My Lens:
Tristam is basically a natural scientist. When he is asked to court to find out why a mysterious herb being used to keep the King alive is no longer producing seeds, he is drawn into a political battle that seems to revolve around himself. Of course, he has no idea what either side of this battle actually want from him, or what this herb does - though it seems to have addictive properties. It is a world without magic, however, Tristam seems to attract strange happenings where ever it is that he goes.
Fluff, fluff, and more fluff. This book was about 600 pages, and for every six pages there was only one that actually advanced the plot. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for detailed descriptions but when it's overbearing and the writing style isn't good enough to support it, it becomes boring. When one spends the entire novel wanting to cross out entire sections because it doesn't look like an Editor actually even glanced at the transcript, it doesn't bode well.
I was hoping for some more fantastical elements. The entire novel revolves around this strange political struggle that is not explained fully. It's hard to read, overly stuffed with useless information, and confusing. All in all, not a good novel - though it had some potential.
I will most certainly not be reading the rest of this series.
Publisher's Weekly
The compelling first volume in a series titled Moontide and Magic Rise bodes well for the ones to follow. Russell (The Initiate Brother) introduces Farrland, a world similar to our own but caught in a struggle between magic and science. The story follows the adventures of Tristam Flattery, who epitomizes this conflict and holds the key to Farrland's destiny. A young man well known as a botanist and naturalist, Tristam constantly endeavors to free himself from any affiliation with magic. This is fruitless, considering that he was raised by his great uncle Erasmus, the last of the great mages. Summoned by Roderick Palle to help the king, Tristam discovers Kingsfoil, a plant that can cure disease and prolong life; unfortunately, the plant itself is ailing. Roderick, the king, and the Duchess of Morland believe that Tristam's physic powers will revitalize the plant. When this fails, Tristam, the duchess and a band of wily sailors start out for Varua, the home of Kingsfoil. What follows is an incredible adventure at sea during which Tristam's special powers become increasingly evident, saving the wayfarers' lives and leading them to archeological treasures. A spectacular beginning of what is sure to be a successful fantasy series.
Wednesday, 11 November 2009
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Chil'ens
I never thought I'd be grateful for my mother's sense of over protectiveness and ridiculous paranoia. I can't imagine losing a child, anywhere. The very thought of losing a camper still keeps me up at night.
The idea of losing a child, even not my own, in a store scares the living hell out of me. Especially when it's the only really large scale toy store for miles and miles.
So, explain to me why a five year old child can be at customer service for ten minutes before a name can be coaxed out of him and almost twenty minutes after his mother was paged over the loud speakers; and when she appears she looks surprised that the employees were getting worried. -
A Walk Down Memory Lane
The soft fabric digs at my chewed at fingertips. The scent of mothballs, dried sweat, and stale closet air wafts through my nose. Stacks of clothing surround me, each piece with it's own set of memories.
This dress was modified and shortened by one of my best friends at college. These sweat pants that say "Allentown" on the side, came from my high school: New Jersey - not Pennsylvania, thank you very much. This tee shirt came from the first NEARfest that I arrived in time to receive a size small. This pair of pants was given to me by my best friend's mother when she lost a ton of weight. This skirt came from a dumpster diving mission, but the elastic bit the dust. This bodice came from my first, and probably only, trip to the Renaissance Faire. These tee shirts came from woot.com, a site that Adrian and I still check on a daily basis. This pair of gauchos was worn on the first "Talk Like A Pirate Day," that I participated in. This shirt, was my mother's, it is a tour shirt from King Crimson's Discipline. I wore this pair of shoes every day for almost two years. These wife beaters I started wearing during guard practice because womens' "boyfriend beaters" didn't allow me to move as fluidly. This couple of shirts came from my Hot Topic phase - before it was trendy to shop at Hot Topic; remember how my friends used to be literately afraid of the store? This pin, ah, this pin is the pin that each of my friends from college have; one Christmas we made these for them as a sign of friendship.
Stories, stories, stories. Oh, the stories our possessions could tell if only they could speak. I almost cried going through my old clothing for a goodwill trip. These clothes were only taking up space in my closet, never even were they looked at. I dubbed a number of old tee shirts "hanger shirts," or shirts that are falling apart or don't fit, but have too much emotional value to get rid of. Concert shirts that make me smile, even though they haven't fit me in years or have been worn so often they're beginning to shred; shirts that had been painted on for guard, but are again too small and rather uncomfortable; they're all wonderful.
GoodWill allows these pieces of clothing to continue their journey. I love wearing used clothing because there's a story there, just under the surface. It feels like I just need to brush the surface and my mind will be open to all these stories that I cannot even fathom.
Monday, 09 November 2009
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